Original Publication Information:
Suedomsa the Magazine Summer 1998 Special Edition
Beginning Life Crisis (The Travel Column) by Christy Tobin
So you slave away for four long years to accomplish a degree in a field
you believe you are interested in. Then you come to find out that all of
the work and stress has gotten you little of nowhere. It is time to begin
life, find a job, settle down, find a mate and live that fairy tale life
you always dreamed of. Aaay, wrong there is still much work to be done
to reach those dreamy goals that you have set in your head.
For you exit these collegiate institutions to find that jobs don't fall
off trees. You find out that the jobs that are available don't even pay
enough for you to afford the basic necessities. I am not talking BMW'ss
and Lexus' here. I am talking about a car, insurance, a roof over your
head and food to eat. What do companies/employers want??? I feel that I
am a responsible young adult. I try to stay out of trouble, I love my
family and I act more responsible than people twice my age. However,
these wonderful qualities are getting me no where. I started off college
four years ago and ventured out into the world to make it on my own. I
have had wonderful support from my family, who understood that I needed to
discover things on my own. I moved from the quiet Shenandoah Valley in
Virginia to the most sinful city in existence, Las Vegas. I wanted to
experience a new culture and a new scene, so I made a life for myself. I
met new friends, found a job, studied advertising and graduated from
college (the first in my family). But here I am in the world, feeling a
bit lonelier than ever. I am wondering what will happen next. Am I
destined to stay in the Las Vegas area? (A place I have learned to love.)
Should I consider moving back home to familiar people and possibly more
job opportunities? Or do venture further into the world and jump into a
completely new locale? I guess you wake up one morning and know the right
thing to do, but for now I wait for the answer that will make me happy.
Life is a scary thing, one moment you are all secure in your aspirations
and then the next you are biting at your nails wondering what will happen
to you next, no track and no self assurance.
I often wonder if there are others out there like me who care and work
hard at everything they do. Do people at age 21 give 150% to their job?
Are they thoughtful and responsible? These are questions I never find
answers to.
Sex for now, love making later by Jamie Baker
Many years ago you had to be married before you would ever think of being
sexually active. Nowadays, either we have NO MORALS or else maybe we just
want to have fun. There's so many ways to look at this touchy subject
(literally speaking) what exactly is sex? I mean is sex when you just
fuck & don't climax and love is when you do? If you were having sex with
someone and they were so awful that you just couldn't even stay with them
anymore, would you then make love with someone else that pleased you more
than your life is worth?
When someone is awful, there's no sense in even giving them the pleasure
of faking an orgasm, you only fake an orgasm when you're with a person
that you know you can have one with. Maybe you're just not completely
into it that day, or the mood is just not quite right.
Let me tell you one more thing, size definitely doesn't matter. 99.9% of
women agree but there's still that little .01% that annoys me. It's all
how you use it. TRUST ME.
What if you think the person you are having sex with is awful? Do you try
to make it better by telling them how your body works so that they can
please you? Or do you wait and see if they really care about your
satisfaction and wait for them to ask you what you like? In this
situation, I feel that you wait because that way if after a couple times,
they just get off after their whole 5 minute and you're unsatisfied,
you'll know that they probably don't care at all about you. They just
want to get themselves off.
Also, if someone is always very fast (5 - 10 minutes) and they start to
make lame excuses like "I'm sorry it's been so long since I've had sex" or
"I didn't want our friend in the other room to have to wait too long" do
you just sit there and let the stupid excuses pass? I know the truth is
you just can't last. I say you tell them the truth. All I can say is if
you don't get the women your with to scream so loud that the neighbors
came over to see if you're alright (which has been a personal experience
of mine) then you're obviously not doing something right.
However, the girl has to be careful because she doesn't ever want to give
the guy too much of an ego boost because then they'll be walking around
giving themselves nicknames. Just remember if the guy you're with is
really bad, tell them you just want to be friends and that way they'll get
the clue that they weren't all that they thought they were. Hopefully,
you'll be helping them for future acquaintances. And if you really want
to make their life simple, make sure they people you're with all have the
same name.
That way you'll never get caught.
Be safe.
